Preconceived notions are the locks on the door to wisdom. ~Merry Browne
We all plan, even if we try not to plan, somewhere in the back of your mind you try to prepare yourself for the future ahead.
In order to plan we need to create a picture of what we expect to happen in the future. We base this picture on many events from both our past and future. Most of us won’t start to plan our own wedding unless we have met a candidate that suits the description of future husband.
Planning in itself is an act that should bring us re-assurance, and ensure that our lives are heading in a certain direction. But with planning also comes a certain element of rigidity. If we do not control the action of planning, we can very easily become slaves of what I call the pre-conceived planning syndrome.
People suffering from this syndrome feel uncomfortable when life events do not happen according to their plans. Once an event does not fall within their planning schedule they either ignore it or try to change it.
Unfortunately there are many side effects of the pre-conceived planning syndrome. The sufferers feel that they lack energy, a vision. Their lives are predictable without excitement and adventure.
To all sufferers there is some good news. There are many ways to overcome the syndrome. One is to still plan – after all we all need some sort of security, but see the planning as part of the adventure. What do I mean by that? Rather view a plan as a framework, within which you can deviate and change. So make your plans broad and generalised, with enough room for growing and breathing. By doing this you will also find, that with time you handle events outside of your planning schedule with more ease.
Always remember – life is not meant to be planned, it is meant to be lived.
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